Vrinkesh – The Divine Home

Intimacy heals when its not surrounded with insecurities. Insecurities begin when your desire to be with someone grows more than your acceptance for being with yourself. If given a chance you will choose to be with that person more than you choose to be with yourself alone. Even when alone you would be lost in thoughts of that perosn rather than being mindful with yourself in that moment.

This attachment tears you down because it often comes with possessiveness. When the desire to be clutched with someone becomes larger than your peace of being with yourself, emotional destruction begins.

When your core desire to stay close to someone or to stay too much connected becomes toxic for the other person the relationship tears apart.

You would be blaming the other person for being unfair with you for pulling away but  it would be impossible to see that the real problem began from the core of your heart with the desire to be with the other person beyond a reasonable acceptable point. 

Imagine being hugged by a cat and never getting rid of it? Never.  A bird that does not go away just stays there on your shoulder. A dog which does not get tired of roaming around you. Just Never. How badly will it irritate you. No matter how much you would be fond of it in the beginnning, most of us would start getting tired of it. It will make your routine difficult.

When you find yourself waiting badly for a text, a call or the next companionship, let yourself know, it’s time to heal.

When you start craving for a company more than your capacity to stay with yourself, note that, there your emotional dependency begins. And its a trap which does not have wires. It will stay within your mind and will eat you like leaches without even letting you know.

Such attachment becomes a burden for the other person. This kind of craving has to be healed from within yourself.

Try medidation. Try praying. Try spending time with nature. Try hugging a tree or a pillow. Your peace of being with yourself should be massive enough that no attachment of human or animal company can over power it.

On a conclusive note, if you want mental peace, the desire for intimacy should never become stronger than the comfort of being safe with yourself.