Vrinkesh – The Divine Home

Have you ever cried watching a movie? Have you ever slept longer than you needed to? Does coming out of bed on a few days feels like the most unwanted task? Do you ruminate on thoughts of an event that happend slightly long back. Does your concentration suffer due to conversations in your head? Do you dream about going back to a place or talk to some people about over and over same stuff?

Your unconscious mind may have some unfinished business. Some questions stay in our minds for years. Some emotions stay unprocessed for decades.

It has not even anything to do with those events or people or places. It has to do everything with your emotional wounds. The unhealed open wounds, that we try to hide under the carpet because we are scared to be vulnerable.

The more you suppress those emotions the more they surface through different cracks. They can make you cry with no particular reason in the present. They can make you sick with headaches, weak stomach, poor immunity or may be with just random repeatative low moods and unhealthy lifestyle.

You may have anger issues or irritability with slightest of discomfort when you are in emotional pain.

Patience become a difficult thing to practice when your mind is not at peace. Sometimes instead of suppressing those emotions, its better to let them burst. Not on a person but in your tears. Because it becomes harder for mind to bear pain beyond a point. And thus it becomes difficult to hide those negative emotions. If you remain unhealed for a long period of time, you may accept life as it seems. Your personality may become afflicted of cranky responses and low moods.

You may start believing this is who you are as a person. So many people accept themselves and their life with what they have now. The unhealed emotions become their way of living and they accept life as it is. When the pain stays longer than a tolerable point, it stops getting validation from people around. Your family and friends may or may never understand what you are going through. You may not even be able to express becuase hiding vulnerability is a survival instinct. At no cost we would want to show ourselves as weak or foolish person. That’s why we never want to be seen as a vulnerable entity. And thus, we learn to hide the pain even from our loved ones and people who care about us. We choose saving our pride and ego over showing how much we care about a person or a situation, especially when getting a positive result has a thin chance.

Your pain may not always get the solace it deserves nor you should cry before people because they will not bother after a point of time.

You should spend some time with yourself and look within. Watch your thoughts. Validate your emotions. Cry. Forgive people in your heart. If you are guilty of hurting someone, seek an apology if they are alive and reachable.

Because life is not short, it gets heavy to carry those burdens in your head for years and decades. It might be difficult to live mentally free if you never take that baggage off your mind.

Betrayals from loved ones and people you trusted are hard to overcome. And so is to get the confidence back when your self esteem is tarnished. When someone does a wrong thing to you, its hard to forgive the person. But harder is to take that incidence off your memories and rumination.

Some emotions stay in the very core of our hearts and over the period of time we just cover them with blankets. But they come, here and there, as anger, irritation, tears or just as a ruminating thought. More you ruminate about something in your mind, the more you are re-living those memories in your mind and the harder it would be to heal those wounds.

Cry hard whenever you feel like. But then eat well and sleep well.

Self healing is comforting and soothing in long run. Though, it will not be a linear process to heal and you may take longer than you think would be usual but be kind to yourself. Only you are witnessing your healings and there is no shame in taking longer.

Sometimes you will fall into old patterns and sometimes you will be highly energetic. Accept the ups and downs of the cycle. And allow yourself to fall down and get up again.

In the long run, try to find something passionately productive to do. Find something engaging and create some meaningful fresh connections. Read. Play some sport. Walk. Go gyming. Dance or just cry, eat and sleep. But please ensure to be kind to yourself.

If possible, write down or record your emotions and watch the progress of getting better over the period of time.

A decade later you may become a very kind hearted and productive person if you process your grief properly. And thus, please try to heal yourself for becoming that better version of you who is at more peace.

Remember, be kind to yourself and to others, no matter how strongly the anger is shouting from within. Release it in tears and not on people.