Vrinkesh – The Divine Home

Heard about that umbilical chord a child has when it is in the womb? Even after birth, as an infant the child stays emotionally connected to the mother with such a similar invisible chord.

As we grow old, the emotional attachment starts shifting towards people we meet. Eventually a few of them grow as affectionate friendships and relationships. If the attachment is healthy you would be able to take the separation lightly and would move forward once the interaction is over.

However, some attachments stay in our minds longer than usual. Rarely but sometimes we get attached to a few people disproportionately. It happens when you start craving for a presence more than the other person reciprocates.

The chord can emotionally disrupt the inner child if the mother does not feel proportionately attached or does not care enough.

If you surrender this emotional chord to someone who does not pamper you enough as much as your inner child wants, the emotional damage begins.

As an adult it is your responsibility to take care of that inner child and do not abandon it to people for the said unavailable care.

The fact for the long term is, this emotional fulfillment MUST not be dependent upon an external person. Not even if you are married to that person. Because your emotional dependence can make the other person feel like a burden to reciprocate. Eventually people change over the period of time and you are not a responsibility to anyone else but only yourself.

Becoming emotionally independent is not optional. It is a life lesson and probably has roots in spirituality.

The question comes how that emotional chord has to be kept within you instead of surrendering to an external person.

The answer to that question can be a journey of decades for a lot of people. I will tell you the short conclusion of my journey, who knows, might save a few years for you or someone you know.

It was around 2014 when I texted a few close friends with the same question asking if they have ever felt a deep emotional emptiness for no sensible reason and if any of them knew a solution of that black hole of emptiness. That emptiness had made me super bitter, irritated, unproductive and angry. I was blaming everything except understanding that it was nothing but a disproportionate emotional attachment and abandonment which was hurting my inner unpampered child.

As expected, the answers of that text were fruitless. Four years later after struggling with this endlessly, on one difficult night I was crying hard over a few life failures. Something just insticted me to plug in the earphones and I played some spiritual songs on loop for weeks and months. Not sure what exact magic was there but I felt strengthened and I never went back to a single person asking for a solution of that emotional emptiness.

Yes! The solution to my emotional emptiness was “prayers” and “musical meditation”. The good thing is even if you don’t believe in god, it does not harm anyone to listen some emotionally strengthening songs on loop. They just act as a few good auto suggestions to the sub conscious mind.

The solution for that emotional emptiness can be different for everyone. If you find any for yourself, please let us know. Would be exciting to find out and who knows the good word may help a few additional people to save a few years of emotional pain.

A strengthened emotional mind lives a fulfilled life. It does not go to other people to fill the empty emotional cup. It becomes an ocean within which has the kindness to fill others’ empty emotional cup…Let’s become one! 🙂