Vrinkesh – The Divine Home

I had been trying since years to build a habit of waking up early and sleeping early. But as most of us struggle with the habit of keeping the phone aside, I have been a victim of this too. But I observed what is keeping me awake at night? Recently some random tarot card readings are the culprits. I started watching them because I found them fun eventually they started becoming addictive.

I felt it is becoming an emotional hook. But I tried using it in a better way. I created a playlist I could use handy. With my alarm of 4-5 AM, I play it beside which gets my mind slowly to conscious level.

It’s been a few days, I think it has worked well. I am waking up early even when I don’t need to, for any specific task because I am trying to build the habit consistently.

That experience has made me observe once again how emotional hooks work and how they can influence our habits and emotional patterns.

May be that is why some people love traveling and some people are domestic animals. Because they have different emotional hooks attached to the respective experiences.

May be that is why some people love reading and others love playing guitar or football. Because that is where their mind has found an emotional hook.

The question is, if we want to build a habit consistently, how can we create an emotional hook around it.

There is a theory called “Dip Theory” which says we enjoy the beginning of an initial pursuit however as we move forward the challenging period makes the progress slow down and that is where most of us quit.

If we can keep ourselves going for the time being, eventually we start enjoying the process. And that is when it becomes a pursuit we enjoy and it becomes an emotional hook.

Emotional hooks can ascend or descend us in life. I had an ex colleague who started indulging in alcohol a lot after his last break up. He had to switch patterns of going back to that girl every time because now they could not talk. He chose alcohol as it makes the emotions numb. It aids in switching the emotional pattern but it is not a good emotional hook. It will take another few years to switch this emotional pattern and the damage it will cause to mind and body would be a different battle to fight.

Few years down the line I met a roommate also who went through a similar situation. She got deceived by her high school crush. Instead of alcohol she chose god and understanding psychology. She got indulged into prayers for hours. She started sleeping with meditation music. She used mantra healing, journaling, reading scriptures and psychology blogs to understand and process her emotions. Basically, she replaced her attachment from that person to god. And due to the teachings of those scriptures and lessons on psychology she became a better person. Honesty towards one’s duty and kindness are key ingredients of her new personality.

Definitely, the time taken to heal the emotional damage is a toll for both. But switching to god is anytime more helpful than choosing alcohol. I don’t think I even need to elaborate on that.

Her choices worked well. She has eventually helped her multiple friends to heal emotionally.

The thoughts, memories and emotions we live with are the castles or the cages that our mind has created within itself depending upon the emotional hooks it has chosen sub consciously.

Identifying and choosing a good emotional hook is super important as it changes the pace of our life and your life choices impacts everyone associated to you especially your family. We owe a lot to the resources of the universe which have built us. So let’s pause and observe while choosing every emotional pattern which creates a vital impact and not a destructing one.

Emotions build our subconscious mental patterns and eventually habits. Ten years down the line different emotional hooks can make us a very different personality.

So let’s observe and write down our emotional hooks with the impact they have created in the past ten years.