Vrinkesh – The Divine Home of Emotional Healings

• People don’t respect emotional neediness or requests for favours. They will not show it on your face but will stay away from initiating further conversations with you.
• People don’t respect the lack of emotional fulfilment. When you try to become friends with someone too early or open up emotionally with their limited efforts.
• People don’t respect people who seek their approval or seek inputs in every next conversation.
• People who initiate conversation after being ignored or cutted off earlier lose a good name in the circle. Let’s practice to let people go with blessings even if we love them especially when we do not see reciprocation.
• when we say sorry for no reason…just casually, we look submissive and people start taking too submissive people for granted.
• When we go to an event or act in a certain way to fit in. Let’s learn to say “no”. I know it takes awareness and practice. Observe your own behaviour in every group and ask why you are acting this way. A lot of times we start behaving in a certain way due to social pressure.
• When we do not act on our inner voice and look for validations externally, it makes us feel less decisive. If you are confused, divide your intuition in 70:30 ratio. Go with what you feel 70% is right. If delaying the decision can increase your confidence, delay it. Yet, reaching to a 100% clarity is a rare event in life. But sometimes delaying the decisions have a cost too. Thus, if you have to make a choice at the given point of time, go with 70% option, even if you prove to be wrong, eventually you would know you gave your best. Finding answers outside, raises the risk of regret later on. Atleast, you would know you heard your inner voice and whether right or wrong, it was your own decision. Irrespective of consequences, your accountability and confidence would increase over the period of time.
• Our subconscious mind naturally operates with fear. Fear of lose, fear of missing out, fear of being not accepted, fear of being left alone. Those fears are our survival instincts as human is a social animal. But sometimes these fears become insecurities which turn up into jealousy. When we feel insecure about someone else’s shine or victory, it makes us look vulnerable. We have to remind ourselves that the universe is infinite. We can win and everyone else can also win. We may lose a race but there are infinite races to sign up for. If we lose one race, we can try in another race another time. We can congratulate people for their victory and still become a winner in our own story.
• Repeated follow ups make the offer unattractive. You might be selling the Taj Mahal, but if you call the same buyer everyday, one fine day they would prefer to block you. Your presence has to be more than the Taj Mahal for your own self.
• People don’t respect people who do not have enough resources for their basic necessities. If we respect our work, it respects us back with financial fulfilment. Money must not be tied with greed but we cannot ignore the fact that we cannot live on the tree branches. We have to pay for the resources we require. Most of us exchange our time with money. Making money should not become the sole motto which seizes the freedom of movement and time. Thus a balance is required. Balance of time, freedom, mental peace and resources. Know when to stop resting and know when to stop working. When you have mental peace, your face has a glow of emotional fulfilment, which brings me to the next and last point for the day.
• The desire to look good comes from the desire to be accepted. The desire to be accepted comes from the fear of being left out. Winning over the fear and fulfilling a desire is a blessing for mental peace. Either make peace with that fear or fulfill that desire because the social acceptance comes from the confidence you wear on your face. Confidence would come when we accept ourselves which is the most difficult task as we carry a critic within us. So either win over the standards your inner critic wants you to keep up with or make peace with that inner critic.

Earning respect socially might be important enough to live a socially acceptable life but earning respect from within will bring the peace that will stay with us in the long run.