Vrinkesh – The Divine Home of Emotional Healings

Throughout my life I have been someone who gets scared of difficult conversations. My feet find the door to run outside and never look back every time I feel threatened. I can relate to everyone emotionally who has got into the same situation and chose to cut off the communication.

But eventually I realised, cutting off is an easy short cut. Sometimes, it’s not even an option. Sometimes you are in battles you can choose to escape or choose to stay but both have a cost associated.

Emotional energy is not an infinite resource for most of us and choosing those confrontations requires alot of courage. You may not always be able to run away. Even if you choose to run away in the moment, there will be times, when you will not be able to. Being selective about choosing your battles is wise but sometimes while escaping one battle we are choosing another battle unknowingly.

When your heart runs faster in difficult conversation, there are two quick options. Speak up smartly and twist the conversation in your favour or shut up. If you cannot be the first one, become the second one.

If the choice of words go wrong, people can twist your words and use them against you but shutting up can save you a little.

However, not taking a stand where you should can bring you in a difficult spot which can make you a puppet of someone else’s fears, biases, decisions and choices.

A lot of times, people believe they are the choice makers, but they are living in fear or are emotionally biased. They don’t see the long run impact of their choices. They see the immediate benefit of momentary emotional hype.

If you wish to minimise the impact of someone else’s fears, anger, choose distance deliberately. Isolation is a blessing over choosing the wrong crowd. If you feel demeaned, suppressed, suffocated, they are good signs to either confront or walk away.

It’s easy to walk away when you are not emotionally attached. When you are emotionally attached, walking away causes a dent on your emotional well being.

If all your calculations suggest the person is irreplaceable, choose confrontations. Give your best to resolve, if you don’t see a solution coming, choose to bless and let go of the attachment.

If the emotional attachments are limited, distance can be a blessing in disguise but even then if someone else is trying to communicate try to make sure to not walk away. Listening to someone sometimes become a moral accountability. Because it takes a lot of courage to speak up and share the core feelings. If you walk away from such a difficult conversation, the other person has every single right to let you go and may be never look back.

If you are absolutely okay to let them go, have courage and strength to let it happen. Choosing the right battle can save emotional energies for both the parties in the long run.